What’s Sex Got To Do With IT?
This post’s title is a riff on one of my fav Tina Turner tunes, “What’s Love Got To Do With It”?
Well, for those of us whose chronic pain orginates from childhood sexual abuse; I’d say EVERYTHING!
We’ve all heard about the Body/Mind thing. We’ve all heard about the Mind/Emotion thing. We’ve all heard about the Mind/Spirt thing. But, few of us (well at least me) seldom heard about the SEXUAL thing.
What do I mean?
Early on in therapy I learned that there is a BIG connection between the Mind and the Body. Through Cognitive Therapy I began to change the way I thought and the way I talked to myself. This helped mitigate my depression.
As I read hundreds of Self Help books I began to see the connection between Body / Mind and Emotion. Then came a 4th dimension: Spirit. I’ve long been a spiritual seeker but only in the last 15 or so years have I explicitly explored spiritual beliefs that are non-Christian.
So, up until recently my understanding was that the parts, or pieces, or aspects of our beings that intertwined and interacted with each other were just 4: Mind, Body, Spirit, Emotion.
Then I began to do some relationship work with my best friend Bill Astalnok who is a Certified “Body Vibrance” Coach. I was surprized to learn that the model which underpins Body Vibrance work is 5-fold.The added element being SEXUAL.
As I began to think about that it made a lot of sense. After all, sexual abuse victims have Tribal wounds; wounds that lodge in the 1s Chakra.
And, all the Cognitive Therapy in the world will not touch or release the Trauma stored in our sexual organs.
So, 2 years ago I sought out a local Tantric Coach to help me free up my sexuality. Unfortunately, I got sick … probably because I wasn’t then ready to really DO the Work.
Now though, I believe I am ready!
So, starting next week I’m going to be doing some Tantric Healing work.
My goal is to heal the pain of sexual abuse and to free up my creative, Kundalini energy.
I’ll let you know how it goes.
